2.3. Cultural Norms and Manners

But still I do not want to live there because why; because we are social animals, we cannot live in isolation so, if instead of that, I send dogs or maybe cow, lion, can we call it kind of they are my companions, I can stay with them, am I social now; basically, no.

I need fellow members who look like me, who can talk to me and with whom I can interact with so, this other fellow, not only dogs, cats, lions but I want the human being right, so it could be that someone is from my own country, it depends on someone's nations, race or maybe same linguistic group or maybe some coming from the same town and village, geographical locations or same occupations.

So, we all comprise, want to live together, sometimes based on nation, race, linguistic groups, town, occupations, we want to live together and that’s how we form, create society and community okay.

Humans are inherently social creatures. We require interaction with others who share common traits such as nationality, language, or occupation to build a supportive community. The text emphasizes that living in isolation—even with animals—does not fulfill our social needs. For meaningful interactions, we need fellow humans who can engage with us on multiple levels.

Consider how people from the same cultural background often bond over shared traditions and language. For instance, a group of friends from the same country may feel more comfortable celebrating their customs together than with others who don't share the same cultural context.

Now, if I want to live there, okay and what is missing here like 3, 4, 5 people coming from same nations or same linguistic group or maybe same hometown, they are living together, what is missing there in this diagram, what is not there; that a society needs a human being are missing, human beings are missing. So, what I should look into? If I want to say okay, we can live like this, really we agree? No, I will not agree, why?

I will again feel isolated, if I say no, you cannot talk to each other, you cannot share anything with each other, you cannot look at each other, you cannot help each other, you cannot marry, you cannot develop friendship; make friendship so, in that condition; in that conditions you cannot really make yourself social so, what is missing is that simply being a social animal, I want interactions with each other.

The absence of human interaction leads to isolation, even when surrounded by people with similar backgrounds. The text highlights that a community is not just defined by the presence of individuals but rather by meaningful connections and interactions among those individuals. True socialization requires communication, sharing support, and forming relationships.

Imagine a school where students from the same country sit together but do not actually talk or interact—they might feel lonely despite having peers around them. True community emerges when they engage in conversations and develop friendships through shared experiences, discussions, and support.

So, but then now question is that how do you make interactions, I have different identity and roles, sometimes I am a father, sometimes I am a son, sometimes I am a friend, sometimes I am a teacher so, the way I talk to my students, I talked to my friends, these 2 interactions are different so, how to control like suppose, if at the middle of the night, I call you and say hey, hello how are you, well this is not socially accepted, nobody would bother that one, okay.

In social interactions, individuals adopt different roles depending on the context, such as being a friend or a teacher. This affect how they communicate with others. Social norms dictate acceptable behaviors based on these roles, and violating these norms—like calling someone late at night—can disrupt interactions.

Think of how you talk to a friend at a party versus addressing a teacher in class. The tone, language, and even the topics of conversation will differ based on the relationship and context. This adaptability in communication styles is essential for maintaining social harmony.

So, people are interacting but they are not effectively interacting, there is something missing, people want to smoke, they are smoking but they are bothering others, is it okay? If somebody is saying to me, hi or hello generally, we say hello are hi, if I say okay I don't know the meaning of hi or anything well, we are not social right, so our interaction is not going on well.

Social interaction goes beyond just speaking to one another; it requires understanding and responding appropriately to social cues. When interactions lack awareness—for instance, someone ignoring social greetings or disrupting others—it leads to ineffective communication and a breakdown in social relationships.

Picture a scenario where a group of friends is at a café, and one person is loud and disruptive. While they might be engaging with their friends, they are not respecting the atmosphere or others around them. Effective interaction considers the feelings and comfort of everyone involved.

Now, we want to maintain that social relationship, somebody is saying Namaste, I am saying Namaste, okay, handshake; we are returning with handshake. And when it is more difficult to maintain social relationship okay, why society cannot always maintain social relationship? So, then how to achieve that one, that how we can maintain that social order, these social interactions okay, that is very important.

Cultural norms dictate how we interact with one another through established behaviors, such as greetings like waving, bowing, or handshaking. These actions help maintain social relationships and reflect the shared values within a culture. However, different perspectives and conflicts can hinder the consistency of these norms.

Consider how people greet each other in different cultures—handshakes in some countries versus bowing in others. Understanding and respecting these cultural differences is essential for fostering strong interpersonal relationships and maintaining social order.

Now, why we cannot do it because we have different mind, different perspective, overlapping roles and conflicts we have, we possess okay and so, we put rules and regulations upon interactions between individuals or between groups, formal and informal rules and regulations. Like sometimes, some rules are very formal like it’s written that please do it at your home, you cannot do it, it is completely, explicitly and very fun written and some are sometimes that a very formal that you cannot smoke here, you cannot eat here but people are on a queue where nobody told them to do that but they are doing it, it’s very informal manner, it is a kind of to showing the manners to others; respect to others.

Social interactions are often guided by a framework of rules that can be both formal (like laws) and informal (like social expectations). These rules help mitigate conflicts and improve understanding among individuals, as they provide a structure within which social norms can be respected.

Imagine a restaurant—there are formal rules like no smoking inside and informal rules like waiting in line. These rules help create a pleasant dining experience by ensuring that everyone follows guidelines that promote good behavior.

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