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Let's begin by discussing why Kezia is afraid of her father. What aspects of his behavior contribute to her fear?
I think it's mostly because he is very strict and doesnβt express any affection.
Yes, and he is big and loud, which makes her feel small and scared.
Exactly! His size and commanding presence make Kezia feel intimidated. Can anyone else think of a time when they felt scared of an adult?
I felt that way with my teacher when I was younger, but I learned they want to help us.
Great point! Realizing that their intentions may not be to harm can help shift that fear into understanding.
To remember this, we can use the acronym FEAR: F for Figure of Authority, E for Expectations, A for Actions interpreted as threats, and R for Relational distance. This can guide us on why children feel fear.
To wrap up, Kezia's fear primarily stems from her father's strict nature and lack of access to softer emotions from him.
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Let's move on to Kezia's attempt to connect with her father through the birthday gift. What was her intention?
She wanted to show her love by making something special for him.
But she unintentionally caused chaos by tearing up his important papers.
Yes! Her attempt demonstrates her desire to bridge the emotional gap between them. Can we think about how that reflects many relationships?
It shows that sometimes our attempts to connect can backfire, and we need to be careful.
Absolutely! The lesson here can be to communicate intentions clearly. A memory aid we can use is the word LOVE: L for Listen to intentions, O for Offer understanding, V for Validate emotions, and E for Engage proactively.
In summary, Kezia's efforts reflect the importance of connection and how miscommunication can lead to misunderstandings.
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Finally, letβs discuss how Kezia began to see her father differently after she felt scared during the nightmare. What was the turning point?
When he comforted her after she had the nightmare, it made her realize he has his own feelings and can be gentle.
Right! She snuggled up to him and felt safe, which changed her perception.
Exactly, the turning point illustrates the human side of her father. Itβs important we recognize this shift in relationships. A helpful mnemonic could be SAFE: S for Sympathy, A for Affection, F for Feelings mutual, and E for Empathy.
To conclude, this section reflects how vulnerability can open the door to deeper understanding in relationships.
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In this narrative, a young girl named Kezia grapples with her fear of her father, stemming from his strict demeanor and authoritative presence. Throughout various interactions and a personal crisis, she discovers a new perspective on him, revealing deeper emotions of sympathy and understanding.
In "Nightmare and Seeking Comfort," we delve into the story of Kezia, a little girl who views her father with fear and trepidation. Keziaβs father appears as a figure to be avoidedβhe is big, loud, and seemingly unapproachable. Each morning, he gives her a goodbye kiss, but it does not lessen her fear. As she reflects on her interactions with him, she can articulate the dread she feels when he returns home from work. The atmosphere in her home, particularly the way her father demands his needs be met, leaves her feeling anxious.
The narrative takes a pivotal turn when Kezia attempts to connect with her father by making him a special birthday giftβa pin-cushion. However, the unintended consequences of her actions lead to chaos when she accidentally tears up important papers belonging to him. Her father's response is stern and punitive, resulting in further confusion and sorrow for her. In an emotional climax, Kezia experiences nightmares that leave her feeling alone and vulnerable, prompting her father to comfort her for the first time. Through this experience, she realizes that he is not just an authority figure but also a person with his own vulnerabilities.
By the end of the section, Kezia begins to view her father as a human being who deserves her compassion, marking a significant shift in her perception of familial relationships.
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In this chunk, we see Kezia's initial perception of her father. She finds him intimidating, and his presence makes her feel anxious. The routine of him kissing her goodbye contrasts sharply with her feeling of relief once he leaves. This sets up a backdrop of fear, where Kezia's interactions with her father are primarily characterized by avoidance and discomfort.
Imagine a child feeling scared of a teacher who raises their voice often. A child might feel relieved when the teacher leaves the room because the atmosphere becomes calmer, similar to how Kezia feels relieved when her father departs.
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In the evening when he came home she stood near the staircase and heard his loud voice in the hall. 'Bring my tea into the drawing-room... Hasnβt the paper come yet? Mother, go and see if my paperβs out there β and bring me my slippers.'
Here, Kezia's fear is further illustrated by her reaction when her father comes home. His loud, demanding voice instills a sense of dread in her. She feels small and insignificant as she listens to him give orders, which makes her view him as a formidable figure in her life.
Think of how a parent who is often busy and sharp in speech can make a child reluctant to engage. If a parent comes home stressed and starts issuing directives, a child might feel too intimidated to ask for help or express their feelings.
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She never stuttered with other people β had quite given it up β but only with Father, because then she was trying so hard to say the words properly. 'Whatβs the matter? What are you looking so wretched about?'
Kezia's stuttering presents a clear psychological response to her father's presence. Unlike other situations, when she is with her father, she struggles to communicate effectively, highlighting her anxiety and fear. His sharp questioning exacerbates her feelings of inadequacy and fear.
Consider a student who feels nervous during a presentation in front of a strict teacher. The anxiety can cause them to forget their lines or speak unevenly, much like Kezia stutters when interacting with her father.
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But what to fill it with? That was the question. The grandmother was out in the garden, and she wandered into Motherβs bedroom to look for scraps. ... Finally Mother came into Keziaβs room. 'Kezia, I suppose you didnβt see some papers on a table in our room?' 'Oh yes,' she said, 'I tore them up for my surprise.'
This section illustrates Kezia's innocent but misguided attempt to please her father with a gift, which leads to unintended consequences. By tearing up important papers to create a pin-cushion, she misinterprets the value of her father's work, resulting in chaos and fury when her father finds out.
Think about a child who wants to bake cookies for a parent's birthday but uses the wrong ingredients or makes a mess. The original intention was to bring joy, but it ends up frustrating the parent instead, mirroring Kezia's experience.
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Then Father came into the room with a ruler in his hands. 'I am going to beat you for this,' he said. ... 'What did God make fathers for?' she sobbed.
This chunk reveals the climax of the storyβthe punishment Kezia receives from her father, which encapsulates the misunderstandings between them. Kezia is left confused and heartbroken, questioning the very purpose of fathers when she feels hurt by his actions.
Imagine a child who feels their parent is being overly harsh when they just wanted to help. This can create feelings of resentment and confusion, leading to questions about parental roles, similar to what Kezia experiences.
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He was harder than Grandmother, but it was a nice hardness. ... 'Oh,' said the little girl, 'my headβs on your heart. I can hear it going. What a big heart youβve got, Father dear.'
At this point, Keziaβs perception of her father begins to shift. Despite their earlier conflict, she starts to see him as vulnerable and in need of her affection. This moment of connection allows her to find comfort, illustrating a developing understanding of parental love.
This is akin to a child who feels upset after a disagreement with a parent but later recognizes the love and effort underlying their actions. A comforting hug or a shared quiet moment can help bridge those emotional gaps.
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Key Concepts
Parental Relationship: Understanding the dynamics between a child and parent, and how perceptions can shift over time.
Empathy Development: The process through which individuals learn to understand and share the feelings of others.
Child's Perspective: Recognizing how a child interprets adult behaviors and how that shapes their emotional responses.
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Kezia's initial interactions with her father show a one-sided, fearful perception molded by his authoritarian demeanor.
The significant moment of comforting shows how vulnerability can redefine relationships and change perceptions.
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Keziaβs fear, so full of dread, obeys her fatherβs words unsaid. But comfort comes in darkest nights, a fatherβs love sheds gentle lights.
Kezia was always fearful of her father, imagining him as a giant. But one night when she felt helpless, he came and cradled her like a hero, revealing the compassion she had never known.
To recall the stages of Kezia's change: F - Fear, G - Gift-making, N - Nightmare, C - Comfort, U - Understanding.
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Term: Nightmare
Definition:
A frightening dream that causes feelings of anxiety and fear.
Term: Wretched
Definition:
In a very unhappy or unfortunate state.
Term: Laboriously
Definition:
Done with a lot of effort or difficulty.
Term: Hue and cry
Definition:
An angry protest or outcry.
Term: Snuggled
Definition:
Moved into a warm and comfortable position close to someone.